There are so many different definitions of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) around, the formal one being that it’s a Study of Human Excellence. My favourite, and I think the most meaningful, is that its like having ‘an instruction manual for the mind’. NLP is such a complex and comprehensive subject that I couldn't begin to even cover off a fraction of it here. I just want to give an insight into it, and how powerful it can be. Our mind is so powerful and yet many of us use it to a negative end rather than a positive one a lot of the time – for example, the way we talk to ourselves: ‘oh god, why did I do that I must be stupid’ ‘I’m as fat as a pig’ ‘ I can't stop eating’ ‘I’m so unlucky’ ….I’m sure you know the kind of thing. The issue is that our unconscious mind takes everything we say literally, and so it thinks we really are stupid / fat / unable to stop eating / always unlucky and so we begin to act in that way. And because our unconscious mind is like a small child who always wants to be right, it will seek out things to confirm what we have now started to believe about ourselves. And so the cycle goes on. Linked to this is the mind / body connection, which means that every thought creates a physical reaction and whether that’s an empowering thought such as ‘I can do this’ or a limiting one such as ‘I cant do this’ our body will react accordingly.
We can’t change the actual events of the past however with NLP it is possible to change the way you react to the memory by rearranging some of the elements you store. For example, you can go back to the toe-curling moment when you fluffed your presentation and by changing the structure of the memory, you can stop being negatively affected by it.
I chose to specialise in NLP and Hypnotherapy after spending a lot of my life being unhappy and unfulfilled despite ‘having’ lots of things including a successful career, money, shoes (endless shoes!), a great partner and loving family. When I was younger, I was treated for depression with CBT (Cognitive Based Therapy) however I felt that that kept me immersed in the problems whereas when I discovered NLP, I found it gave me the tools to move forward. Suddenly I was able to view myself, life and other people, in a different way: a positive way! It taught me that I am responsible for what I end up with, a concept which was scary to begin with and now is incredibly empowering. It’s a great way of moving people from ‘effect’ to ‘cause’ and helping them to take control of their lives. This is so massively powerful for clients and extremely rewarding for me as the coach too.
Please note that whilst CBT didn’t work for me, I fully support its efficacy as a treatment for depression as well as other issues.
Hi, my name is Sarah and I am the Feel Good Coach. As a certified master practitioner of NLP and Hypnotherapy and soon to be Level 3 Personal Trainer; I help people to achieve their physical and emotional goals and Feel Good!
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